I got this text above text from a friend of mine while I was shopping at Target. I was zipping around with my cart on a mission to have the shortest grocery shopping trip ever. Let me be clear that this is always my goal. I went over to say hello even though I hadn’t showered and didn’t have anything particular to say because that is what friends do. I don’t recall the specifics of our conversation, but I do recall that I helped her avoid another person that she didn’t have time to engage in conversation. Friends do this for one another.
I write this because I am learning that in this age of super connectedness people are reporting being more lonely and having fewer friends than ever before. I think that’s sad.
In my support circle I am happy to have friends, family, acquaintances, and coworkers. You may fall into more than one of these categories.
Here is a laundry list of what I believe friends do for one another: call to say hello for no reason, or send extremely random texts (I got one from my sister today about cooking tamales = random), laugh with and at one another, make plans, even if they are eons in the future, help out with or without asking questions (depending on the situation), watch terrible movies together, help shake that weirdo at the bar (the opposite of a wing man), attend events that only one wants to attend with the promise of a role reversal in the future, buy you coffee on occasion, go to bat for you when you aren’t able to yourself, and give hugs when you need them and when you don’t.
These things may sound simple, but they are important. Go forth and be a good friend.